I Love You Rituals - Sleephaven Sleep Consultation: Helping Tired Families Sleep

34122142_jpeg_preview_medium“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”
Remember these words that Aibileen the maid spoke into the heart of her little charge each day in The Help, by Kathryn Stockett? As Aibileen recited these familiar words, she filled the love tank of her little girl with what Dr. Becky Bailey (author of Conscious Discipline) refers to as I love you rituals.

I love you rituals build a sense of security and belonging. They help our children say “Good Night” or “Good Bye” and separate from us for a time.  I love you rituals build a foundation of trust, willingness and cooperation. They help us reconnect and say “Hello” after we have been apart.

I love you rituals can be songs, rhymes, familiar sayings or as simple as a special handshake. What they all have in common is this:  eye contact, touch, presence (“I am here, just for you”) and an element of playfulness.  Check out some of my favorite I love you rituals after you watch this short clip of I love you rituals in action.

 

Skinnamarink

(tune: https://www.google.ca/#q=skinnamarink+song)

Skinnamarink a-dink a-dink (Put one hand under the opposite elbow and wave) Skinnamarink a-do, I love you! (point to yourself, cross arms over heart, point to your child)
Skinnamarink a-dink a-dink
Skinnamarink a-do, I love you!

I love you in the morning (with hands interlocked, rock the baby)

And in the afternoon (continue rock, but move arms in front of body)
I love you in the evening, underneath the moon (move arms overhead to make a round moon)
Skinnamarink a-dink a-dink
Skinnamarink a-do, I love you!

I love you when you’re smiling; I love you when you’re glad.
I love you when you’re crying, and even when you’re mad.

Skinnamarink a-dink a-dink
Skinnamarink a-do, I love you!

I love you in the bathtub, with soap on your head.
I love you when you’re bundled up, on your way to bed.

Skinnamarink a-dink a-dink
Skinnamarink a-do, I love you!

 

The Good Morning Train is Coming

(tune: She’ll be Comin’ Round the Mountain)

The good morning train is coming, how are you?  Choo! Choo!
The good morning train is coming, how are you?  Choo! Choo!
The good morning train is coming,
The good morning train is coming,
The good morning train is coming, how are you?  Choo! Choo!

And we’ll say hello to ____, how are you?  Choo! Choo! (repeat above verse, just keep changing the names!)

 

Kissy, Kissy Fingers

Kissy, kissy fingers.  Kissy, kissy toes.
Kissy, kissy baby (or child’s name) on your kissy nose.
I love to kiss your fingers; I love to kiss your toes.
I love to kiss my baby on your kissy nose!

 

This is the Way We Wash Our Hands

(tune: Here We Go ‘Round the Mulberry Bush)

This is the way we wash our hands, wash our hands, wash our hands.
This is the way we wash our hands, early in the morning.

(other verses:  … brush our hair … put on our shoes … kiss (child’s name) ….)

 

Ten Little Fingers

Ten little fingers, ten little toes.
Two shiny eyes, and one little nose.
Two listening ears, and one nodding head.
Close your sleepy eyes, and off to bed.

 

Pizza, Pickle, Pumpernickel

Pizza, pickle, pumpernickel
My little one shall have a tickle!
One for her (his) nose
And one for her (his) toes
And one for her (his) tummy
Where the hotdog goes.

 

Where is Baby?

(tune: Frere Jacques)

Where is (child’s name)?  Where is (child’s name)?
There you are!  There you are!
I’m so glad to see you!  I’m so glad to see you!
Peek-a-boo!  I see you.

 

Good Night, Sweet Baby

Good night, sweet baby.
Good night, sweet one.
The moon is shining
The day is done.

Good night, my baby.
Good night, my dear.
The stars are twinkling
And sleep is near.

 

See You Later, Alligator

(tune: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i1SSkI0aoys)

See you later, alligator.
In a while, crocodile.
Swish, swish, jellyfish.
Give a hug, ladybug.
Out the door, dinosaur.
Stay sweet, parakeet.
Take care, polar bear.
Bye, bye, butterfly.

 
Margot Byer
Sleephaven Sleep Consultation
Helping Tired Families Sleep
… in Edmonton, Alberta and beyond